When I stopped working, I had read another housewife blog discussing a monthly “allowance” for the wife. Even though this sounded totally demeaning right off the bat, I realized after a couple of months that I needed it, because otherwise I was afraid to spend any money at all. Psychologically, I felt like since I wasn’t explicitly bringing in any money, I shouldn’t spend any money that wasn’t absolutely necessary for the good of the household.
However, this is the exact reason I became a stay at home wife. I knew there was inherent immeasurable value in a housewife’s work, and I wanted to see if I could find self-worth without a paycheck. I wanted to show myself that there was nothing wrong with me getting a cut of the money from my husband’s monthly income. Whether I saw it as a “thank you” from my husband or as my legitimate share, I had earned that. Through my cooking, cleaning, and general care of the house, I shouldn’t feel bad about using the money.
I’m still mentally working on feeling ok with this, but then comes the second question.
What do I spend the money on?
The first thing I tried was makeup. I currently don’t wear any. I bought $30 worth of sunscreen, eyeliner, and eyeshadow from CVS. I wore the makeup once, didn’t get much out of it, and then never thought about it again. Fail.
I also came across the Youtube channel Beauty and the Beastons, where Tiffany, a stay at home mom of two, wipes down her kitchen every day with this pink cleaner.
I’ve always been the type of gal who always buys the generic, store-brand, no-frills version of everything. But it was PINK.
The idea sat dormant in my head for a couple of days. Then one trip to the grocery store later, I came back with my first kind-of-unnecessary personal purchase.
Isn’t she beautiful?
So I wiped down my entire kitchen. It was a blast.
Because this stuff smells better than vinegar and water, which was my economical cleaning solution from before. No wonder I never wanted to clean. White vinegar smells soooooooo bad. I actually think it makes my restroom smell worse.
The cleaning kick continued. Tiffany used this to mop her kitchen:
so I thought, well, Tiffany has never steered me in the wrong direction before. But this O-Cedar Easy Wring Spin Mop and Bucket System costs a pretty $34.00…
Real talk, I never helped my mom mop the kitchen or bathrooms when I was growing up. She never asked, and I never offered. I had only mopped at my ice cream job. My husband had to take the stars out of my eyes and tell me that with our tiny kitchen and bathroom, the Fancy Expensive Bucket System was kind of impractical.
So I had to pivot and make my own “Beginner Housewife with a Tiny Kitchen Floor” Mop and Bucket System. I had an old Swiffer mop and some mostly clean rags sitting around. My end result is what you see below:
Ultimate Fragrance Experience? DON’T MIND IF I DO.
Fancy camera shot for the viewers.
I apologize for the nasty state of the rag.
My pride and joy.
This was the second time I’ve mopped our kitchen since we moved in four and a half months ago. I was initially too embarrassed to admit this, but I might as well be honest. I’m a beginner! It was also the first time I’ve mopped the restroom. You can go ahead and vomit now.
Looking forward to even more adventures ahead. Signing off now.